What is FemDom?

I believe that in its simplest terms, Femdom is a type of relationship in which the female partner is more dominant than the male. The term does have broader applications though as in some relationships that are termed femdom both partners are female and in others there are more than 2 partners. In all femdom relationships male partners are required to submit to females. It is my belief that the men that seek femdom or female lead relationships both want and need to submit to their women. Whether the need to submit is biological or psychological in nature I cant truly say, but I suspect that although psychology plays a factor, submission is a physiological innate need.  It seems that most women come into femdom relationships at a prompting from boyfriends and husbands and spend a lot of time getting used to the idea. The intensity level of domination and the tools used by a female to dominate her submissive vary widely. Ive recognized four common types of femdom relationships. 

     The first is short term. You can define this as just getting together to play. The partners meet and then separate after a set period of time. They are not likely emotionally attached to one another. I think professional dominatrix fall into this category. You can have any level of domination intensity short term. I believe it is more difficult however for the sub to develop the type of trust that is required to truly submit in this type of relationship.  

     The second type of femdom ive noticed is bedroom femdom. In this type the female is in complete control in the bedroom. Her domination is focused on her mates sexuality and in their sexual relationship. Her domination may move naturally out of the bedroom and into some aspects of everyday life, but her mate maintains an air of control or at least equality in most other aspects of their lives and relationship. 

     The third type is the most common type of femdom relationship. What most of us would consider the average female led relationship, wife led marriage, or loving female authority relationship. The partners are emotionally attached to one another and there is usually an air of permanence whether the sub is a bf or husband. The intensity of domination varies but it is not usually extremely controlling in the average femdom relationship. There is usually the use of some type of BDSM kink, but again this is not usually of the extreme type. Male chastity and orgasm control are frequently used tools, as well as spankings for sensual play and punishment. Men are usually required to do some housework and show some service to their women. 

     In the fourth type is the extreme femdom relationship. It is the same as the third only taken to more extreme levels. The female controls every aspect of her males life in this type, from his sexuality, to his career and finances, to his food choices. This is the category for those men who wish to be slaves. I can not yet say what drives a male to need this type of control in his life, but I know that the need is out there and that many men need to be owned by a loving female authority. I also don’t think that the average femdom woman is really comfortable owning or training a slave. The intensity of domination can vary in this type but it tends towards the most extreme.  

     This is how I see femdom and categorize it. I would like to work with some other women in forming a femdom training center to both support femdom women in their endeavors and provide training for both dommes and subs in femdom. Any comments and oppinions are greatly appreciated.